Spring Clean Your Mind
I’m lucky to be surrounded by awesome people 99% of the time. My roommate is so positive and cheerful, my boyfriend is supportive and wonderful, and the rest of my friends are brilliant and awesome in their own ways.
But that 1% can really bring you down. That’s why you need to get rid of anybody who isn’t making you a better person.
One of my friends and I are similar in the ways that we can both be too passive when it comes to attributing someone’s negative traits to external factors. Oh, he said something rude? He must be under stress. Or having a bad day.
But at some point you have to realize that if someone is consistently a negative source of energy, you have to get rid of them. Expel them from your life or you will become like them.
I’m happy that I danced with my partner, because I learned a lot. I love dancing and performing, and he only started treating me badly recently.
But when I realized that him changing the routine was an ego thing, and that he was sabotaging all of our work up until that point so he could create his own routine instead of using the one he asked another dancer to create for us.
That’s when I knew I had to get out.
You deserve respect. You deserve being around people who lift you up. Do not settle for anything less!
6 Ways to Spring Clean Your Mind and Soul
- Find the things and people who stress you out in your life. Are these people emotionally taxing to deal with? Do they turn your good days into bad ones? Get rid of them or avoid them if you can.
- Focus on what makes you happy. Ballroom dancing makes me happy, but only with the right people. Luckily, however, I have so many other things I love in my life. I love yoga, I love writing, I love blogging.
- Find closure. Sometimes, the best way to find closure is not to confront people (although that can be helpful, too) but also by writing about how you feel, in great detail. I keep a diary because no one listens better than the page!
- Meditate and Find Peace. Listen to calming music and do some slow, relaxing yoga poses. De-stress.
- Eat clean. Eat good, nourishing foods. Get back to the basics. Drink lots of water to flush the toxins out of your system. Start fresh!
- Write down a list of priorities. What’s most important to you? Health? Happiness? Family? Shift your focus and put things into perspective.
Deciding to remove people from our lives is a tough decision to make. We don’t want to let others go, but you must be able to recognize unhealthy relationships, friendships, and partnerships and escape them.
Some bridges were meant to be disassembled.